If you, too, are guilty of marring your moral compass by watching the show Vanderpump Rules, then you are probably aware of Katie’s “tea towel” wedding invitations. Those ended up costing her and Tom $18.50 a piece and totaling over $2000. In my humble opinion, that’s the opposite of how much one should spend on invitations.
When having a modern backyard wedding, it makes sense to set the tone with practical invitations that save money and time for everyone involved. A great option, then, is to use paperless invitations. However, should that just not appeal to you, then check out my other blog post Modern Paper Invitations.
Why Use Paperless Invitations?
- They can save you hundreds or, in the case of Katie of Vanderpump Rules, thousands of dollars.
- You can send them to friends or family living in international locations in a split second.
- It’s eco-friendly, which helps repair your broken moral compass as resulted from watching too many Vanderpump Rules episodes.
- A link to your wedding website or an RSVP form is obviously a lot easier for people to click on and respond to immediately than to fill out a card and send it via snail mail. Even if you put an RSVP link onto a paper invitation, guests will still have to type in the link themselves; this is more likely to be put off or eventually forgotten.
- There are so many beautiful, modern designs to choose from– like the one featured at the top of this post, from paperlesspost.com.
Where can you create paperless invitations?
My favorite option is Paperless Post. Here is a sampling of their designs:
I really did want to provide some other ecard company options, but I couldn’t find better designs than those by Paperless Post. Check them out– and then let me know your favorite of their designs via comments on this post!
What exactly does one write on the invitation?
The two infographics below are easy to understand and can help you craft the wording of your invite within a couple minutes. See my summary of key points below. Also, I’ve created a sample of how my invitation might look.
The important (and some additional) points
Front of the invitation:
- Start with who is hosting, followed by the request.
- Include the date and time of wedding. Since this is an electronic version, you may be able to provide it as a link to a google calendar invite.
- For a backyard or home wedding, it’s nice to specify that and give credit where credit is due. Write “In the home of ____” or “In our home,” or the more whimsical wording, “In our humble home.”
- Provide address, which you can make a link to google maps.
- Specify whether there will be a reception following the ceremony.
- It is not considered proper etiquette to discuss your registry on the invitation. Better to just have it on your website.
Back of the invitation:
- Explain how guests can RSVP– since this is an evite, you may not be able to send an RSVP card and it is probably easier to keep track of it all on your wedding website.
- Explain the parking situation.
- Explain accommodations for your guests.
- You may want to specify what type of attire you prefer. I think this is key if you intend to have a formal or semi-formal wedding, as many people may assume that a backyard wedding will be casual.
- If you have a wedding website, include the URL (as a link if possible).
If you are not sending out a save-the-date ecard in advance, invitations should be sent out 6-7 months prior to your wedding date. Otherwise, 3 months is fine.
What my wedding evite might look like:
And the back:
As I created my prospective e-invite, I realized that I feel more comfortable the less that I specify and the more casual language I use. I felt weird telling people how to dress or using phrasing like “the honor of your presence.” But I suppose that’s why I’m having a backyard wedding… and why I’m considering e-cards in the first place.
I hope this has been helpful. Please do comment below on wedding evites– have you used them? Would you be willing to use them for your wedding? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts.